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APTM
May 26, 2017 15:31:08 GMT
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Post by agpjt413 on May 26, 2017 15:31:08 GMT
Have any of you ladies migrated there yet? I saw that the A16 BMB hadn't been created yet so wondering if any of you ladies wanted to have one created or are you guys mostly sticking to staying here and FB?
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Post by coffeequeen14 on May 26, 2017 19:10:07 GMT
Have any of you ladies migrated there yet? I saw that the A16 BMB hadn't been created yet so wondering if any of you ladies wanted to have one created or are you guys mostly sticking to staying here and FB? I am fine staying here and FB but will follow the team. |
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APTM
May 27, 2017 2:10:55 GMT
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Post by dorkusmalorkus on May 27, 2017 2:10:55 GMT
Have any of you ladies migrated there yet? I saw that the A16 BMB hadn't been created yet so wondering if any of you ladies wanted to have one created or are you guys mostly sticking to staying here and FB? I am fine staying here and FB but will follow the team. Same |
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Post by meagpt22 on May 27, 2017 8:24:57 GMT
Have any of you ladies migrated there yet? I saw that the A16 BMB hadn't been created yet so wondering if any of you ladies wanted to have one created or are you guys mostly sticking to staying here and FB? I am fine staying here and FB but will follow the team. The same. I'd prefer not to change places though.not sure I can handle another move. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Post by shanny on May 28, 2017 4:56:14 GMT
What's APTM? I'm a little sad that everything has changed and I don't think we will be back to the even low amount of activity we had before. 😕
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APTM
May 29, 2017 13:55:49 GMT
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Post by bocaburger on May 29, 2017 13:55:49 GMT
I'm not going over there. There is just too much drama already.
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Post by joy on May 29, 2017 19:03:25 GMT
What's APTM? I'm a little sad that everything has changed and I don't think we will be back to the even low amount of activity we had before. 😕 Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk A Place to Meet - ie. the new TCF. Mass exoduses of forums happen. Routinely. I think I've been through six or seven at this point. I like picking new avatars. I will stay here or there. I'm already in both so it's all the same to me. I won't go to Facebook, though. |
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APTM
May 29, 2017 19:33:37 GMT
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Post by coffeequeen14 on May 29, 2017 19:33:37 GMT
I haven't made my FB account yet but agre with bocaburgerI'm not sure aprm is for me. I don't love drama |
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Post by joy on May 29, 2017 20:17:28 GMT
I'm not going to say this the best way possible.
TCF was born from drama. The admins on TheBump starting screwing over posters so they revolted and set up TCF. APTM was also started because of clashes with admins.
There will always be madness on heavily read boards with big personalities. Personalities will clash, they will move and some will be lost in transition. That kind of drama has little to do with our BMB.
However, message boards need traffic to stay alive. Traffic was not happening on TCF and boards were dying. The move and drama were entirely to put new people in charge who would implement ways to bring new people to the boards. That wasn't happening on TCF.
Again, the traffic wouldn't keep our BMB alive because new people are unlikely to join out BMB. We're it. So, in that sense, staying here is fine. Staying in TCF is fine. But, I didn't want to leave the drama talk in a vaccuum. It wasn't entirely without merit.
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APTM
May 29, 2017 21:12:39 GMT
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Post by agpjt413 on May 29, 2017 21:12:39 GMT
I'm not doing FB either and right now straddling 3 boards (here, APTM & LAL (Life After Loss - which includes all of IF & CLNBC as well)) although I think it may be going dark soon as so many ladies don't want to have to keep moving. I really like it on LAL though b/c it's "home" to me...comfy and small. I still have my TCF account & trying to touch base with my 35+ ladies. I also love that this is still here!
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May 30, 2017 14:02:06 GMT
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Post by blueinred on May 30, 2017 14:02:06 GMT
Could someone post a link to this group. The SAIF group on TCF seems to be migrating there. The SAIF Facebook group is of no interest to me and I want to marginally stay in touch with people I have known for years.
Thanks.
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Post by bocaburger on Jun 2, 2017 2:29:19 GMT
joy I understand your point but for me, it's not about the reason to leave or traffic or business plans or whatever. It's about the way people treated (and are still treating) each other. I specifically never posted in Parenting because I found the overall culture too crass and snarky for my taste. I posted regularly on the IF boards, POM, MW, and A16, and on all those boards people were respectful, thoughtful, and supportive. The drama that surrounded this exodus was very parenting-centric and very much excluded the needs of some of the smaller but very important communities. The way people spoke to each other in the SOTF and follow-up threads frankly disgusted me. I am hesitant to go anywhere started by a person who thinks it's acceptable to say "F you with a sick d!ck" to someone with a slightly different opinion. And even if I would still have considered it under different leadership, the transfer of leadership was surrounded by even more drama. The SM takeover was also pretty inconsiderate. Anyway, I definitely don't want to argue about this, I just wanted to say that I actually read most of the threads and tried to really understand what was going on. In the end, moving to APTM is not a great decision for me personally. I was on TCF for the supportive IF community and it's clear that the culture of APTM is not going to be what I'm looking for.
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Post by joy on Jun 2, 2017 20:17:20 GMT
I respect your opinion, boca. And I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything, just offering context.
My last lil piece of context will be that Naria said equally bad things when we left TheBump about their management And that exodus was also lead by Parenting with the same attitudes as is happening now. This one isn't especially bad or worse than what happened then.
It's perfectly fine to not want to move or be apart of A Place to Meet. I nearly didn't go myself but changed my mind because I do like chatting.
The ScaryMommy shit, though. I was not part of that and found it super distasteful.
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APTM
Jun 2, 2017 22:29:56 GMT
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Post by bocaburger on Jun 2, 2017 22:29:56 GMT
I respect your opinion, boca. And I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything, just offering context. My last lil piece of context will be that Naria said equally bad things when we left TheBump about their management And that exodus was also lead by Parenting with the same attitudes as is happening now. This one isn't especially bad or worse than what happened then. It's perfectly fine to not want to move or be apart of A Place to Meet. I nearly didn't go myself but changed my mind because I do like chatting. The ScaryMommy shit, though. I was not part of that and found it super distasteful. I'm sure that's true. I wasn't super active on TB and didn't come to TCF right away, so I think the drama had mostly settled down by the time I found my way over. |
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Jun 3, 2017 12:23:10 GMT
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Post by agpjt413 on Jun 3, 2017 12:23:10 GMT
Could someone post a link to this group. The SAIF group on TCF seems to be migrating there. The SAIF Facebook group is of no interest to me and I want to marginally stay in touch with people I have known for years. Thanks. aplacetomeet.freeforums.net  |
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